Greetings, My Friends;
Matthew 12:37 "For by your words, you will be justified and by your words you will be condemned."
We as humans have a tendency to judge or condemn other people. Even Christians sometimes for a brief moment, or as a reflex type response, judge, blame, criticize, or condemn someone else. We even have times that we don't realize we are doing it.
There are times, especially with loved ones that we judge them without even knowing. In our hearts we are actually trying to help but in the process, we sometimes bring up the past, opening old wounds. We don't realize how much words can hurt. The level of hurt seems to correspond directly to the relationship the person has to the one doing the judging. If a parent or other person that you love or respect criticizes you, it usually hurts the most. In a lot of cases, you really do hurt the ones you love. You may love them so much that you try to help in your own knowledge or opinion. If the one criticizing is just any old body, it usually does not hurt anywhere near as much.
Another thought is, the person you are bringing up old mistakes with, is usually aware that they messed up, and they feel horrible enough already. It helps absolutely nothing.
God has a plan for each person's life. All of our actions, including mistakes are part of His plan. We have free will, and that messes us up. We drift off course and need a nudge back. God didn't cause our mistakes, but he knew they would happen, so he took that into account in his plan. Just as in the Old Testament, the law showed people they could not keep the law, free will, shows us we can't do anything worthwhile without God.
When we judge, condemn, or criticize, we are not doing it to the person, we are actually telling God we have a better plan than He does. The created is wiser than the creator. Did you ever look at it that way? In my personal opinion, the correct answer is let go and let God do his will. Remember, it is written," Matthew 7:1 – 2 judge not lest ye be judged for what judgment you judge you will be judged and what measure you use, it will be measured back to you."
God bless you and remember,
Jesus Loves You
Prayer of salvation;
"Oh God in heaven, I believe with all my heart that Jesus has been raised from the dead. I receive your word, and I repent of sin. I renounce the past. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus. I receive my forgiveness. I receive the new birth, cleansed and washed in the Word and in the precious blood of Jesus. Fill me with Your Spirit in Jesus name. Amen."